My Girlfriend Wants Me to Follow Her to a New Country. But I’m Hung Up on One Thing She
Growing up, multiple family members, including my mom, drilled into me several ideas about dating that I now understand were hard-learned lessons they learned from growing up as women in a strict, religious setting. Those lessons included: Always have a secret stash of money in…
Growing up, multiple family members, including my mom, drilled into me several ideas about dating that I now understand were hard-learned lessons they learned from growing up as women in a strict, religious setting. Those lessons included: Always have a secret stash of money.
I’ve never really thought these were anything but common sense. I am a lesbian who has been with my partner for three years.
What Happened
We are building a life together, and while I have made it clear that I would like to be married someday, I have no real timetable and don’t feel a rush to get engaged. That is, until she recently received Canadian citizenship.
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Key Details
She wants to move within the next two to three years for lots of reasons I agree with, but I feel anxious about wanting to follow her. There is no need for us to be married, as we qualify for a domestic.
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Putting pressure on your partner is only more likely to cause cracks.
It also means asking yourself if you really want to move at all.
Why It Matters
We would be legally tied together, and she feels as though that is enough for now, as she doesn’t think she is ready for marriage in that time span. I would feel so much more secure if we were married.
That means figuring out a better financial situation for yourself, a plan to stay in contact with your support system, and a clear vision of what you want your life and relationship to look.
So, Queer New World, here are our marching orders for you: Work on building up your own safety net over the next two to three years and really think about what you want the.
What Reports Say
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